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When I have been to Charleston before, it’s always been a treat. We’d stay at elegant bed and breakfasts, take in the sights, dine at the fine restaurants, shop the plentiful art galleries and boutiques. In the era of COVID, and with children in tow, we knew it wasn’t going to be like our previous trips. No dining, no shopping, and we’d have to be very choosy with the tours we took both out of COVID precautions and the children’s tolerance (read: boredom) levels.
After the dungeon tour, we went upstairs for a self-guided tour of the Exchange portion of the building. There was an interesting painting of how the town looked in the olden days. The Old Exchange and Provost Dungeon stands in the center of the picture, looking very similar to how it still looks today.
But it was another picture that caught my eye. A painting dipicting a slave auction that would have taken place outside the building. Something didn’t feel right. Take a look. What do you see?
Later in the day, I stopped by an outdoor vendor stand. An old woman with soft dark chocolatey skin, deep soulful eyes, and high cheekbones was twisting and turning sweetgrass and palm fronds into intricate designs. Her deft hands moved as easily and familiarly as if she were stroking the cheek of a child. Her hair was piled high on her head, with a well-worn but still beautiful scarf holding it in place. She wore a long dress and a dark lacy shawl. I traced my fingers over a basket and told her that her work was beautiful.
We had an instant connection. Before I knew it we were deep into conversation. Her family came from the Boone Plantation. Her father was raised there until he was 9-years old. Her grandmother taught her the handicrafts of the Geechee Gullah culture. She asked about my children, what things we had done and seen. I told her about our experience at the McLeod Plantation, about how I was trying to teach my children “right” and provide them with an accurate depiction of history. I mentioned the painting we saw at the Provost Dungeon and how it didn’t sit right with me. She pointed to a photo behind her, very similar to the one on left . She said, “These are the faces. These are the expressions.” She thanked me for telling my daughter how to see the difference. “So often we are afraid to talk about these things because we don’t know the right words, or we’re worried we’ll offend someone. But what we gotta do is just start the talkin’. The rest will figure itself out.” She handed me three rose buds made of palm fronds and sweet grass to give to the children. John bought me a beautiful intricate basket to give me at Christmas.
The rest of our visit in Charleston didn’t quite go as I had planned. The kids weren’t interested in a tour of any of the fancy historic mansions, the Slave Mart Museum was closed, and by the time we arrived at the famous open-air market, they were packing up tables. We didn’t even get to see Rainbow Row in the daylight with darkness coming on swiftly at 5pm. The ghost tour I had planned to go on was too long and too late for the kids. I was discouraged and feeling a little sorry for myself, my feet aching from all the walking to dead-end destinations. Just then, Siena scurried up to my side, grabbing my hand in hers.
“Thank you, Mommy, for the amazing day. I have had so much fun and have learned so much. This is the coolest trip.”
Then I thought of our dawdling on the pier watching a dolphin play with a buoy. Of the ice cream cones that dripped all over the boys’ hands and lips. Of the boys running down a sidewalk, playing peekaboo behind an enormous live oak. Of the sweet chats Siena and I had as we wandered the town. Of Rhodes having a sword fight with a man dressed in a pirate costume. Of Porter agape over some colorful parrots chattering at him from a sidewalk. Of the moment when the kids ran ahead while John and I strolled behind them holding hands.
Well now, I guess things worked out all right after all.
Who says you need snow to have a magical holiday? This Lowcountry annual tradition, the Holiday Festival of Lights, was truly a sight to behold. Located on James Island, the Charleston County Parks & Rec puts on this amazing festival every year. 700 sponsored displays and over 5 million twinkle lights lit up this drive-through park. Rainbows towered overhead, lit palm trees dotted the way, each display had its own theme – from Santa and elves to farm life, pirates, dinosaurs, famous Charleston buildings, and more! It was so much fun – each display more impressive than the last. We oooh and aahed our way through and enjoyed hot chocolate and fresh-baked cookies! It was a perfect way to welcome in the holiday season!
Estimated to be between 300 and 500 years old, this impressive live oak is coined the Memory Tree. One can’t help but think of all it has seen through the centuries.
Estimated to be between 300 and 500 years old, this impressive live oak is coined the Memory Tree. One can’t help but think of all it has seen through the centuries.
Estimated to be between 300 and 500 years old, this impressive live oak is coined the Memory Tree. One can’t help but think of all it has seen through the centuries.
There are dozens of plantation tours in the southeast. When I lived in Charlotte some 12 years ago, I visited several of them along the East Coast from Virginia to Georgia. Every one of them romanticized the antebellum period, glossing over slavery like it was a minor and perhaps slightly inconvenient part of its history. When the tour guides were asked direct questions about the enslaved, the irritation on their faces were obvious. It’s entirely possible in the age of BLM those tours have since changed their tune, but based on the brochures and websites promoting elegant wedding events featuring one white face after another, I rather doubt it.
It was important to me that our children get the heart-wrenching truth. The horrible mar on our country’s history. On McLeod’s website, it states:
“McLeod Plantation Historic Site is not just a place for memorialization and a place of conscience, but a place where the transformation of conscience can occur.”
For Rhodes, I knew not much would sink in, but Siena and Porter have really begun to do a lot of studying into Black history. Siena has done several school reports on some of the influential players, including Harriet Tubman, MLK, Jr., and Rosa Parks. The children have joined me in protests and John and I have been very vocal and honest about Black history and the BLM movement.
“It may be called a plantation,” our guide, Jeff began, “but in reality, it was a slave labor camp and should be regarded as such.” Jeff skipped the white-washed history and instead gave us the stark realities of what life was like for the enslaved and how their ancestors live today. I appreciated Jeff’s humility and honesty right from the start.
“I am a white man telling the enslaved’s stories. I will never speak for them, I can only share their stories. I am constantly learning and listening. I invite you to return to hear tours from other guides, as everyone knows different things and has a different perspective. There are several women who are of Gullah (Geechee) descent and tell the history far better than me.”
Jeff detailed how cotton was harvested and processed by showing us plants behind the McLeod house. It was 70-degrees in the middle of our December visit, and hot in the direct sunlight – no shade to be found stretching over the vast fields where cotton plants once grew. Gnats nibbled at our ears and buzzed around our nose and eyes. In the summer, those same fields would be 90 to 100 degrees of blazing high-humidity heat. The air would be buzzing with hungry mosquitoes, gnats and noseeums, with cockroaches, mice, and snakes skittering afoot. Alligators are also a common pest in the lowcountry.
An enslaved person was expected to pick upwards of 100 to 150-pounds per day, and they would be supervised by a slave driver on horseback who was heavy-handed with a whip. Once the cotton was picked, the enslaved would bring it to the proessessing shed – an open-window rustic shack in the shade of a large live oak tree.
Because of their smaller hands, women and children would pick through the cotton bolls, clearing it of seed and bugs, and other unwelcome debris. It was then processed and baled in large, heavy containers. Day in and day out. Dawn to dusk. Punishment severe. No end in sight. And the McLeod’s getting more and more weathly with each boll.
If an enslaved person was considered unruly or “out of line”, masters would often pay the jailers at the Old Exchange and Provost Dungeon in Charleston to torture them. Shackled in chains underground in the dark with no comprehension of day to night, they would be whipped repeatedly, then salt would be poured onto the wounds. Disease, malnourishment, and infestations of rats and roaches ran rampant in the dungeon.
Jeff told us the story of Leah, a five-year old girl purchased by the McLeods. Five years old, the same age as Rhodes. Ripped from her mother’s arms from the next island over, never to see her parents again. Leah remembers traveling a great distance to get to Charleston. The adults were all blindfolded and bound together in chains. Nobody had shoes or foot coverings on. They stumbled through marshland, rocky paths, and rough cobblestones, whipped if they started going too slow or their bodies slunk from the heat and exhaustion. Leah remembers how everyone’s feet were battered, bruised, and bleeding. Yet they were forced to march on. Finally they landed at the Slave Mart in Charleston.
Plantation owners would come and invasively examine the enslaved, test their strength and aptitude before bidding on them. Splitting families apart. Treating them as if they were nothing but cattle to be bought and sold. Owned.
An older white southern woman on the tour asked, “But weren’t some of the slave owners decent? You hear stories of how sometimes they had good relationships.”
I responded, “How good of a relationship can you possibly have if you are owned and treated as property? There can be no genuine kindness when you own someone.”
Those romanticized stories told in Hollywood that try to alleviate white guilt make for dangerous lasting impressions.
Jeff discussed the Civil War and the Assimilation. Despite the enslaved becoming free, they were still far from equal. After the war, if an African American didn’t have a job, they would be considered vagrants and were imprisoned. So desperate men and woman would go back to their previous owners begging for jobs and a place to live. Plantation owners still needed the workforce, so rented out clapboard shacks to families in exchange for labor. The African Americans becoming what really amounted to as indentured servants. Free, but not really free at all.
Leah would become one of the freed who stayed on the plantation with her husband, raising their children in a small one-room clapboard shack. Leah left behind over 100 descendants, many of whom still live in the area and carry on the Gullah/Geechee traditions. Her youngest grandchild died in 2016.
2016. Two generations prior and her kin was enslaved. That’s not that long ago. A blink of an eye in the scope of time. When we (white people anyway) think of slavery, we think of it as being a long, long time ago. But the wounds are still gaping and raw. The backbone and infrastructure of America was built by the black bodies who were stolen from their homelands, tortured, raped, their families ripped apart, forced to abandon their spirituality, and forced into labor.
Somehow they carried on, they persevered. Now it’s our turn to fight for their descendants. To never forget. To do everything we can to fight for equality, to end systemic racism, and make our world safe for all. United we must stand.
“Porter, are these barnacles?” I ask my animal-obsessed boy.
“The white and grey ones are, but the black things you see there are clams. Look a little closer and maybe take a photo with your telephoto lens. There are tiny little suction cups at the bottom to help them stay on – even in big storms. And don’t worry! Stepping on them will NOT crack the shells. The shells are super powerful, only a certain type of snail can break through and drill a hole in to get the meat, well, muscle…….” (on and on for about 10 more minutes).
Needless to say I learned quite a lot and when we were at the pier a few days later and saw much bigger clams, I knew exactly what I was looking at.
Now that the kids are a little older, they have come to love the freedom of exploring a new campground. On this exploration, they discovered an ooey gooey perfectly muddy marsh!////
The kids took their bikes to explore the campground and came across a cool marsh.
We weren’t able to do Thanksgiving on the actual day because we were packing Ginger, so we finally celebrated a week later! With a crockpot, convection oven/microwave and a 3-burner stove, I managed to bake a pie, green beans, southern mac and cheese, southern creamed corn, stuffing, sweet potatoes, gravy, and a couple Cornish game hens! It was delicious!
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